Monday Musings: Long Distance

Monday Musings: Long Distance

Long Distance

Sometimes I can’t remember all the days spent without you in my arms.

Those days when I would fall asleep
with a laptop on my pillow
so I could imagine sleeping beside you
feel so far away now.

Those nights when we would stay up late,
whispering softly into the phone,
so we could squeeze in just a few more
moments before sleep would overtake us.

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Spoilers! 5 Long Distance Date Ideas

Spoilers! 5 Long Distance Date Ideas

It’s been awhile since I’ve talked about how Alec and I were in a long distance relationship here on the blog. I’ve dedicated an entire post on our immigration journey (soon to be continued), but the actual long distance part of our relationship is more of a foot note when it is addressed in my writing. Now obviously this was quite some time ago now since we married in October of 2017, but there’s still so many people in long distance relationships whether that’s another country, another state, or if it’s in the middle of a pandemic and you can’t self-isolate together. Alec and I were friends before we were in a serious relationship so we had a lot of late nights/early mornings spent together online. Using my experience from those years of being so far away from my best friend, I want to suggest my five favorite long distance date ideas that you can try no matter the situation you may find yourself in.

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Spoilers! Our Immigration Story So Far

Spoilers! Our Immigration Story So Far


We always knew that one of us would have to move across the ocean to be with the other. In order to do it legally and permanently, we would have to go through immigration which seemed scary at the time. There were many long discussions and late nights spent talking about which country we would live in and how we would accomplish this but, in the end, I landed a job here in St. Louis that would support both of us. So we started our journey through immigration for Alec to move to the US using a K1 Visa, better known as the Fiance Visa.


The entire process took 10 months… 296 days to be exact. It was stressful for both of us. I actually started the process before I left for Ireland. I had to collect evidence of our relationship (7 pictures, itineraries,convention badges, email confirmations for travel plans, etc.) , fill out tons of paperwork, had my family write letters of support, and spent a small fortune to have it all processed. Alec proposed on my trip and had to do more paperwork on his end, go back and forth with the records department in his country for medical records because they couldn’t find them (then it took an additional 6 weeks to get them), visit the doctor for vaccinations and a wellness check, pay for more fees, and finally attend his interview to see if we would get approved for the Fiance Visa.

Long story short: we were approved!


We booked his tickets to the U.S. as soon as we could. A week later, Alec flew into St. Louis Airport where he and I finally could say we would never ever have to part again because of his visitor visa. We went home and, after soaking in the happiness for awhile, started back on the immigration process: Alec’s marriage green card. We filled out the rest of the documents and knew there was one thing left to do… Get married!


Due to time constraints and money, we decided to have a private ceremony and to celebrate with friends and family within the following year. On October 21st, 2017, we were married in a very intimate ceremony with just two friends (acting as witnesses and photographers) and an officiant. The day was everything I thought it would be. I only wished our families were there to see it.


The pictures came out so lovely (and were free courtesy of two good friends). We bargain shopped for our clothes for the day. His clothes came from Dillard’s and American Eagle. I got my dress from Torrid and the crown from a renaissance festival. The bouquet came from a grocery store. I did my make up myself. My hair is naturally straight and I left it as is. Our back drop was Forest Park in St. Louis. It was simple, inexpensive, and low stress for the two of us.


As we start on this new but continuing journey through immigration, I couldn’t ask for a better person by my side. He is my everything, my light, my best friend. After three years together long distance, it felt so right to stand in front of him and become his wife. I look forward to the rest of our lives together and can’t wait to be done with our immigration journey.


Stay tuned for more immigration posts! Questions? Comments? Leave them below!