How Doctor Who Helped Me Get Over a Break Up

How Doctor Who Helped Me Get Over a Break Up

A long, long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I wrote a post about my abusive relationship on another blog. This blog has long since been deleted as well as the posts I wrote with it. I did copy over some of my posts to an external drive that I felt may be worth sharing again one day. This drama-filled, emotional personal story was one of the ones I have kept for years, unsure if I should edit it and re-share it or let it die. It was an extremely dark, abusive, and unhealthy time in my life from the age of about fifteen to twenty. Here I am at 27, almost 28, re-reading what I wrote several years ago, fresh from my break up.

Ever since I started my “Mental Health in the Geek Community” series, I have wanted to tell the story about how fandoms helped me through this horrible break up. I have stopped myself over and over again, fearful of what wounds would be re-opened or what drama or revealed secrets would befall me. I’ve been in therapy now for about 2 years, and I think it’s finally time that I share a bit of my story about how Doctor Who helped me heal and move on from an abusive teenage relationship.

Trigger Warning: I got into detail about the abuse I endured. It’s okay if you want to skip this post. I’ll see you in the next one.

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Link Loves: Prequel Hate, Anime on Mental Health, & the Doctor’s Regeneration

Link Loves: Prequel Hate, Anime on Mental Health, & the Doctor’s Regeneration

Welcome to the eleventh installment of Link Loves. These posts are all about my favorite links of the week! It can include bloggers, articles, news, clothing, accessories, and other cool links I’m enjoying.

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CrapPile is blog that I just recently started following. John has quite an opinion on a lot of things which is something I can appreciate. His recent post on the Star Wars prequels caught my eye. As someone who loves the prequels (and even named her dog after Padme Amidala), I enjoyed reading what John had to say.

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I’m a huge fan of the blog The Time Ladies and its many writers. Thoughts on Regeneration: A Trans Perspective immediately drew me. Emma is a phenomenal writer and reading her post brought tears to my eyes; it’s a worthy read for anyone and everyone.

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Asiana Circus is another new blog I’ve added to my Reader! Like Jella, I found a place to call my own within anime. I also suffer from anxiety, and two of the anime shows mentioned were my escape: InuYasha and Ouran High School Host Club. Check out her list on Top Anime Shows that Help Fight Depression and Anxiety.

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Girly Geek Blog’s very own Erin gives us A Week in the Life on Balancing Jobs and Blogs. What happens when life simply… happens? What can we do to properly balance real life jobs and chores with blog life and writing? Luckily, Erin gives us some tips!

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Ever wonder what your favorite blogger’s home looks like? Later Levels gives us a sneak peek of their home between furniture buying and construction. I personally can’t wait to see how this geeky home comes together!

 

What are your favorite links this week? Got a new favorite blogger? Tell me in the comments!

5FF: Fictional Characters You Most Identify With

5FF: Fictional Characters You Most Identify With

If you’re participating in The Nerdy Girlie’s 5 Fandom Friday, you may have noticed a few of us have made some DLC’s (downloadable content) to complement the already lengthy blog prompt list courtesy of The Nerdy Girlie and Super Space Chick. You can check out my first DLC for 5 Fandom Friday: the GG Pack (the Geeky Gal Pack)!

This list was pretty easy to come up as usually my favorite characters are the ones I identify with. Now obviously none of these characters totally embody my personality or even who I am as a person, but they do possess several traits that I find we have in common.

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Link Loves: Star Trek, Women’s History Month, and Frustration with Non-Gamers

Link Loves: Star Trek, Women’s History Month, and Frustration with Non-Gamers

Welcome to the fifth installment of Link Loves. This post is all about my favorite links of the week! It can include bloggers, articles, news, clothing, accessories, and other cool links I’m enjoying.

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Matt at Normal Happenings wrote a phenomenal post about Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan and the underlying theme of carrying on despite everything trying to tear you down or trip you up. With my grandfather’s sudden passing and a job that never feels secure, Matt’s post felt like a life boat, coming just in the nick of time. Give it a read. You’ll be glad you did.

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Luna over at GamersUnitedGG wrote a fantastic post on female video game characters in honor of Women’s History Month. From Ms. Pacman to Samus Aran, she gives a look at some of our favorite and influential female characters from the 80’s and 90’s. Give it a read and comment with your favorite female game protagonist!

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Rockker66 has taken on the 30 Day Video Game Challenge! Day 5 is “What is your guilty pleasure game?” Check out this post for all the details on Rockker66’s guilty pleasure. Don’t forget: you can still participate in the challenge! Make sure to link my blog so I can like, comment, and give your post a shout out!

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Fan Art by MessyPandas

In case you didn’t know, I’m a HUGE fan of Doctor Who. I am beyond excited for Jodie Whitaker’s Doctor. I also love the gals over at The Ultimate Guide to the Fashion of Doctor Who who put together this awesome list of fan-made title sequences for the new Who.

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Megan at The Dragon’s Tea Party graces us with another #rant. Man, do I love a good rant. She talks about her frustration at non-gamers and their perception of the gaming world and gamers. I’m sure it’s all things you’ve heard before and frustrations you’ve experienced. It’s good to see someone put it down in words.

5FF: Fandoms I’m Thankful For

5FF: Fandoms I’m Thankful For

If you’re participating in The Nerdy Girlie’s 5 Fandom Friday, you may have noticed a few of us have made some DLC’s to complement the already lengthy blog prompt list courtesy of The Nerdy Girlie and Super Space Chick. You can check out my first DLC for 5 Fandom Friday: the GG Pack (the Geeky Gal Pack)!

Thanksgiving is next week, and this prompt couldn’t be more relevant. Going back almost a year ago is one of my first 5FF posts: Fandoms That Made Me Who I Am. This post will hit on this a little bit, but much has changed in a year so get ready for some new fandoms I’m thankful for!

Harry Potter

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The series is over and I’m still obsessed. Halloween? HP marathon. Christmas? HP marathon. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve read the books anymore as I’m reading them again!

Doctor Who

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I’m not totally caught up yet but I am so excited to see the new Doctor and all of her glory. The Doctor got me through a bad break up and became my favorite hero.

Stranger Things

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The newest fandom to join my list but also a goodie. Anyone else fall hard for these characters and the 80’s aesthetic?

Disney

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One of the things that brought my hubby and I together: the mouse. We are so excited to see Disney World on our honeymoon next year.

Star Wars

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Star Wars was a late fandom favorite for me but for the past three birthdays of mine, I’ve made my way to the theater for Star Wars.

What fandoms are you thankful for?