If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, you already know our fiance visa was approved, and Alec is going to be here on the 13th! That’s THREE days away! I can barely concentrate at work, barely sleep, and barely contain my excitement. We’ve been in a long distance relationship for years, visiting when we can scrape up the money and get the time off from work, and hoping for the day we can close the distance.
We close the distance permanently this Friday! In celebration, we wanted to plan a list of things to do together (but let’s be honest, I’ve had these lists for ages, hoping to do them some day with my future husband). I made this cute yearly list for 4 things to do per month as a couple. What do you guys think? Would you add anything else?
I wanted to do something fun for a Spoilers! post like back when I did the 20 facts about myself. Do you enjoy these little posts about me? I consider them a look “behind the curtain.” It’s a way to add a little more “me” between my geeky posts. So how do you win my geeky little heart?
Watch a Disney movie with me
Bring home Chinese for dinner
Help me celebrate Halloween
Hang out with me in pajamas
Take me to the book store
What are some ways to win your heart? Tell me in the comments!
I’ve been pretty quiet about my weight-loss journey here on the blog. If you follow me on Instagram, you’ve seen me cataloging meals and talking about my progress a little. I’ve kept my journey under wraps for a lot of reasons… One of them being how embarrassed I am to have let myself get so unhappy and unhealthy.
See, I’ve always been overweight and then in the last 2 years crept up to obese. I was picked on as a kid at school. Boys told me they didn’t like me because I was fat. I even had a family member in my life at the time severely damage my self confidence when I was 13. She wanted me to diet with her on a cottage cheese crash diet, and when I refused, she made fun of me and crushed what little self confidence I had. My self esteem took a beating from strangers and people I knew. I was not in a happy place.
One thing that did put me in my happy place was food. It was comforting to fill myself to the brim with my favorite things. It was nothing to buy a package of cookies and a big bag of chips and eat until it was all gone. I could watch television and stuff myself to forget about the crappy people around me and how it made me feel inside.
I was an emotional eater. Mad? Just eat 3 bowls of ice cream. Sad? Have a bag of chips. Stressed? Grab two burgers and a large fry and a milkshake on the way home. Anxious? Eat until you can’t feel it anymore.
I climbed off the roller coaster of emotional eating five years ago after I ended an abusive relationship and thought I had kicked the habit. I got down to my lowest weight of 155 pounds. I was eating healthier and had cut out junk food and eating out. I had gotten up to two hours of working out five days a week. I was doing well until the scale stopped moving.
I’m wiser now than I was a two years ago when I had gotten down to my lowest adult weight. I know now the scale stopped because I wasn’t counting calories. I wasn’t weighing my food. I would deprive myself of something for so long until I binged on it later. After binging, I’d workout to try to “make it up.” I stopped losing weight… and then I said fuck it.
I went back to old habits and in two years put back on the weight plus more. I was 184 pounds. On a 5′ 1.5″ frame, it was lot of weight. I was warned by the nurse practitioner that I’d be taken off my birth control if I didn’t get my weight down. I felt ashamed but couldn’t bear to look the truth in the face. I went to Ireland at my highest weight. I met my fiance’s family. I worried the entire time about what everyone thought of my weight.
I knew when the plane landed back in America that I had to change something. In April, I “officially” started my weight loss journey. I only told my fiance and my closest friends about what I was going to do. I kept only them updated on my progress. I let some of that progress filter through to Instagram. I didn’t want anyone else to know what I was up to because I didn’t want their judgement.
When I lost weight the first time, I struggled more. I was berated by people around me about how one doughnut wouldn’t hurt and going out to eat one night wouldn’t kill me. I was a “beautiful girl who had curves and didn’t need to lose weight; I would become a stick.” “Boys don’t like sticks (not true by the way),” but what no one could understand was that all I wanted was to like myself.
So I kept this journey to myself… until now.
As I’ve let myself trickle my weight loss into conversations, I’ve had to clear up a few things: No, I’m not losing weight for my wedding; I’m losing it for me. No, I’m not going to be “a stick”; I’m going to be a healthy weight for my age and height. No, I’m not going to deprive myself of pizza and beer with my buddies on a Friday night; I’m going to eat in moderation and enjoy food.
There’s also no secret to weight loss despite the magazines and internet articles. It’s all about CICO: Calories In/Calories Out. I would have been lost without a certain weight loss forum on reddit that educated me and led me to 1200 calories a day. 1200 calories is the LEAST amount of calories a short woman (who does NOT exercise) should be eating. I don’t exercise much. In fact, I’ve only been walking about 30 to 45 minutes per day.
Since April, I have surpassed my lowest weight. I am 154.8 pounds today. I have no plans of stopping until I hit a healthy weight for my body. For my height, the highest normal weight for me is about 130 pounds. Right now, 125 is the magical number I’ve chosen for myself, but I’m flexible. This number will not be the end all, be all for my happiness.
I not only am better health-wise, but I FEEL better. I like to get dressed up now, my clothes fit better, I like my body, and I just feel more like myself. My stress about my health and body has dwindled down. I still stress sometimes but not like I used to.
So I’m ripping off this band aid of my secret weight loss journey. I plan to write future posts on my progress and keep everyone updated on my Instagram in a more public way. Here’s to progress and loving myself!
You can probably take a quick glace at my blog and see what inspires most of my posts: games, cosplay, fashion, and anime, but what do I draw inspiration from when I sit down to actually write out these blog posts? What do I think about? How do I shape my writing? How do I organize my thoughts?
I enjoy making lists. I’d probably love having a bullet journal if I could spare the time. I make lists for groceries, to do’s, budgets, schedules, blog posts, gifts, projects, wedding expenses, goals, weight loss rewards, etc. I can go on all day! It helps me organize myself and carefully think through each bulleted item.
Motivation, body positive, movies, shows, celebrities, writers: I love all kinds of quotes. Especially when they strike a cord with me or make me feel something. If they really affect me, I write a blog post about whatever it made me think or realize. A lot of my personal blog posts have come out that way.
I listen to all kinds of music depending on my mood. Sometimes I don’t want to listen to anything at all. When I had long commutes I quickly got tired of the radio and started making my own playlists with Amazon Prime Music. You have music at your fingertips and can find just about anything to fit your mood. I don’t often to listen to music while writing anymore, but I’m still inspired by music and lyrics.
Speaking of long commutes, I spent many days listening to Harry Potter. It was comforting and made the drive go by faster. I still find myself reaching for my phone to listen to books when I can’t stand to listen to another song. It definitely helps me with my writing, and it helps my mood.
Is anyone else obsessed with bath bombs? No? Just me? If you haven’t tried one you really should. I love LUSH’s bath bombs. I always feel like I’m treating myself when I take a bubble bath. It instantly boosts my mood and melts my stress away. I can lay in the tub and just breathe and go over my day, or not go over my day and write up drafts for blog posts. The choice is mine.
It’s only fitting that my first post for Spoilers be my engagement story!
The Fiance (I’m so happy I can finally call him that!) and I have been friends for over ten years now. We met online via a 3D chat room (with avatars and the like). A mutual acquaintance introduced us, and we were quickly best friends after that. A boy from a small town in Ireland and a girl from a small town in Alabama of the USA.
It surprisingly didn’t take much to convince our parents to allow him to visit me Alabama for a few weeks. We packed as much as we could into his brief three week visit, and we both cried when he had to leave. As soon as his plane touched down back in Ireland, we started planning his next visit.
The Fiance (then best friend/boyfriend) had visited Alabama a total of three times. The first time was for three weeks; the second time was for two months, and the last time was for one month. The last time he visited, we had finally decided to give a long distance relationship a chance. I’m so glad we did.
I finally managed to save enough money (and got a killer deal on my flights) to visit him in Ireland in February 2017. We were both excited to have me meet his family in person and spend some much needed time together. We had been in a long distance relationship for over two years, but it felt so much longer than that. It’d been about a year and a half since we’d seen each other.
We planned to see the sights, eat good food, see his family, and go on date nights to spend as much time together as possible. I told him there were a few things I really wanted to do: the Dublin Zoo, a real date night, a movie on the couch kind of night, and of course, a CASTLE!
Alec at Ross Castle | Photo by Megan Price at A Geeky Gal
Me at Ross Castle | All rights belong toA Geeky Gal
We both knew he would propose on this trip, but I had no idea what he had planned. I told him to surprise me, but I had very low expectations. Both of us are low-key, pretty introverted people. I had figured it’d be a low-key proposal, and I was perfectly happy with that. Alec had other plans though.
His grandmother messaged me and told me she was excited to be taking us to Bunratty Castle! I got very excited of course after not being able to take a proper tour of Ross Castle (pictures above). Alec said we’d tour the castle then go for dinner. Sounded like a great plan to me!
After a bit of a lengthy car ride, we got to the castle and its grounds. Saying the castle is beautiful would be an understatement. If you ever find yourself in Ireland, Bunratty Castle and Folk Park needs to be on your to do list. I had an amazing time taking pictures, exploring the grounds and cottages, enjoying the animals, and experiencing a real castle.
Of course, Alec and his grandmother had a surprise. They told me we were going to have dinner in the castle! With a medieval show! Complete with people in costumes, singing, story telling, and music! I was so excited; I couldn’t wait until it was time to go in.
After getting inside, having honey mead and listening to the harpist and violinist, Alec and I were approached by one of the ladies in costume. She told us we would be Earl and Lady of the castle for the night, and we’d be crowned before going down to the dining hall. I was extremely nervous about doing anything in front of a room of strangers but Alec’s grandmother gave me a hug and told me to have fun with it. She was the one who had arranged it of course. 😉
After a brief introduction about the castle and its grounds, the woman in costume took our hands and brought us on the little stage in the middle of the room and crowned us Earl and Lady. I think we were both pretty nervous! We were the first to enter the dining hall, and Alec had a throne. I sat beside him and his grandparents sat with us at our long table. The butler, who would be our waiter for the night, came over and filled us in on what our roles would be. Thankfully Alec had the hard parts! I didn’t have to do much but sit there and laugh.
The food was delicious, the waiters and waitresses were hilarious, attentive and insanely talented singers and musicians. The night was absolutely amazing. His grandmother even told me this was were they came on their honeymoon, and they were also crowned Earl and Lady of the castle. That probably should have gave me a hint about where the night was going but I thought Alec would propose to me when we were alone… and I was right.
After the activities and dinner concluded, we were directed down to the ground floor for tea and coffee. They had a nice bag pipe player playing after everyone came down. It was relaxing and a great end to a great night… I didn’t know it was about to be a life-changing great night.
Alec asked me if I wanted to head outside to get a few pictures of the castle lit up before everyone floods back outside. I said of course. I knew it’d be beautiful. We got outside after dodging several people and walked around to the side to see the magnificence of this old castle. We were alone with the castle.
I snapped a couple of pictures after admiring it and turned around to see Alec down on one knee with a ring box in his hand… I said yes.
I love to hear engagement stories! Little or big! Please share your story with me in the comments!
This is the very first installment of Spoilers: the Geek Diaries. Essentially, this where will where all my personal posts will be categorized. Personal posts may consist of happiness, sadness, my past, my future, my relationships, my career path, my family, my journey with immigration, trips taken near and far, my hopes, my insecurities, my dreams, and my fears.
A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, back when I first started blogging, everything I posted was deeply personal. From my relationships to my deepest of insecurities to my hopes and far-flung dreams. I want to get back to that. There is a person behind this blog, a real genuine person who has thoughts and feelings and a crazy life. Things are changing for me. I want to share that with you.
This is me introducing myself to the internet and to you, my readers. This goes beyond the “About Me” page and beyond my usual comfort zone. This is beyond the basics of demographics.