I want to begin by saying escapism itself isn’t unhealthy. It’s actually completely normal, and we all do it. It helps us from burning out more quickly than we would without it. It allows us to come back to an initially overwhelming problem with a better attitude about it. Escapism can allow us to reconnect with ourselves and things we care about as well like games, comics, and TV shows.
So when does escapism become a “bad” thing? If you find yourself ignoring or avoiding issues in your life, then you are on teetering on the edge of escapism becoming unhealthy. You are using your hobbies, interests, and creative outlets as a way to not deal with whatever issues are going on in your life in that moment. Escapism is meant to be temporary. When is becomes a constant part of your life, escapism is no longer considered an escape.
Last year, I was inspired by Erin from Girly Geek Blog’s article on denial to write about my experience with escapism and how it isn’t always good for our mental health. People use escapism every day though books, music, television, games, comics, fandoms, etc. to distract ourselves from the stress and hardships of every day life. It’s a way to relax after a long day. It’s a way to escape into something else for just a little while. The real trick is how to come back after escaping for so long.
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Every once in a while, I say something kind of funny or something pretty deep. It’s not often, but it happens. During a conversation the other day when I turned to one of my favorite CMP’s (Communications Major People) for some advice concerning a co-worker’s wife, I said this gem:
I’m trapped in a box of politeness and am afraid to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Wow. If the way I approached people was summed up in a single sentence, this would be it. I have a strong desire to be “liked.” It kills my vibe when someone is upset with me, and I constantly think about what I could have done to make them not mad. This goes for dealing with people in public too, like Pesky Salesperson at Mid-Range Store.
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Everything that has fans, will undoubtedly have toxic fans. Toxic fans can feel inescapable when you are just trying to enjoy a chat about the latest K-POP music video in a dedicated forum. What can be worse is to find a sudden influx of hate on a comment you left about being excited for the newest season of an anime. We’ve all experienced toxicity from our fandoms in one way or another.
Thank you to Michelle at A Geek Girl’s Guide for suggesting this topic for my Mental Health in the Geek Community series! Michelle asked me to write about how to survive the toxicity of fans online which is honestly becoming more and more of an issue across social media. Most recently, Star Wars: Rise of Skywalker caused quite an uproar in the community and has been the latest movie of the series to divide fans; however, this article isn’t about the Skywalker Saga or the toxicity in the Star Wars community, but rather about what we can do to keep our love of our fandoms without sacrificing our mental health to others who create this toxicity within our beloved fandoms.
How can we deal with the toxicity without giving up our fandoms?
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In 2018, I started seeing a therapist. I initially wanted to see someone for my anxiety that had only gotten worse since Alec arrived in October of 2017. I didn’t know what to expect during my first visit, but my therapist ended up being exactly who I needed. On top of anxiety, I was diagnosed with PTSD. This year, we realized I also have depression.
I’ve been working hard during my mental health journey, learning how to cope and working through my trauma. There have been several “lessons” that have been helping me along the way; some people may call these alternative thoughts or affirmations. They have greatly helped me almost daily. In an effort to keep breaking the stigma around mental health, I wanted to share these alternative thoughts with you on the blog today.
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We’ve talked about burn out, and we’ve even talked about self care for geeks and gamers, but today, I’m about to get very honest with you about real self care. There’s no Lush bath bombs or cute animal face masks here. It’s just me and my journey to finally figuring out what makes me personally feel the best. It probably shouldn’t have taken this long, but here we are!
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