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Day 4 – What was your worst convention experience?
If we go back over 6 or 7 years ago, to my very first convention, we would find a very different Megan, one that you almost wouldn’t recognize today. I was in an abusive relationship, my self-confidence was non-existent, my physical health wasn’t great, and my mental health was even worse. I was in a dark place.
A close friend invited Alec and me to KamiCon for her birthday. I was initially excited to attend my first ever convention with two of my closest friends. We spent weeks planning our mini road trip, booking our hotel, and just chatting about how exciting this would be. I poured over blogs and articles about how to prepare for our first convention and what we would eat. I wanted to be as prepared as possible.
I was also beyond excited that Alec was going to be visiting for the second time ever and it would be in time for the convention. He and I had become best friends and talked about everything. One thing I had confided in him was how I knew that my abusive boyfriend would make this trip all about him, and I would somehow have to pay a hefty emotional price for a weekend with my friends. I, unfortunately, was right.
The closer our convention got, the more emotional manipulation I was under from my abusive boyfriend. I had already asked him several times if he wanted to go, but his answer was always no. He was constantly making me feel guilty for going without him though. Long story short, he threatened to break up with me and the morning before we left for the convention, I drove to his house and begged him to come with us. I made a huge mistake (one of many) by begging him to come along.
Not only were the hotel accommodations now inadequate because he refused to share a bed with Alec, and Alec and my friend obviously couldn’t share, but the entire trip was now awkward and tense. We dropped our stuff off at the hotel after getting an air mattress for Alec to sleep on and made our way to the convention where I hoped and prayed that we would all finally start having a good time. Spoiler: it got worse.
My ex was literally swinging from being obnoxious, unruly, rude, and embarrassing to pretending he was a fan and just as big of a geek as the rest of us. Alec finally took him aside and told him what an ass he was for treating me so horribly and how he was ruining this trip for all of us. My ex tried to keep his thoughts to himself for the rest of the weekend, but I knew once we got back home that I would pay the price for Alec’s lecture.
What should have been an incredible weekend with friends was soured by the emotional manipulation and guilt trip from my ex boyfriend. If I could take my younger self aside, I’d tell her to forget him and have fun with her friends. She probably wouldn’t listen though. I went through a lot in that abusive relationship that led me to therapy and my PTSD diagnosis. I got out though, and I am so much stronger now.
Luckily for me, I’ve attended so many conventions since then to make new memories that my first convention experience has faded away from memory. I’m thankful that I have kick ass friends and a loving husband that would never make me feel bad for going on a trip or indulging in my love of fan conventions.
What was your worst convention experience? Let me know in the comments below OR take on the challenge yourself and link back to this post so I can see your answer!
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