Geek Out Challenge: Day 4

If you’re interested in participating in the Geek Out Challenge, read this post here! Each day I will be posting a question for that day for the next 30 days. When I reach day 31, I will release all 30 questions in a single post with links to all of my answers. Follow along each day with your own post or feel free to wait until the entire challenge has been released and take it on when you like! Be sure to link back to the master post at the end or link back to each post for each day.

Day 4 – What was your worst convention experience?

KamiCon
Alec and Megan at KamiCon | copyright A Geeky Gal

If we go back over 6 or 7 years ago, to my very first convention, we would find a very different Megan, one that you almost wouldn’t recognize today. I was in an abusive relationship, my self-confidence was non-existent, my physical health wasn’t great, and my mental health was even worse. I was in a dark place.

A close friend invited Alec and me to KamiCon for her birthday. I was initially excited to attend my first ever convention with two of my closest friends. We spent weeks planning our mini road trip, booking our hotel, and just chatting about how exciting this would be. I poured over blogs and articles about how to prepare for our first convention and what we would eat. I wanted to be as prepared as possible.

I was also beyond excited that Alec was going to be visiting for the second time ever and it would be in time for the convention. He and I had become best friends and talked about everything. One thing I had confided in him was how I knew that my abusive boyfriend would make this trip all about him, and I would somehow have to pay a hefty emotional price for a weekend with my friends. I, unfortunately, was right.

The closer our convention got, the more emotional manipulation I was under from my abusive boyfriend. I had already asked him several times if he wanted to go, but his answer was always no. He was constantly making me feel guilty for going without him though. Long story short, he threatened to break up with me and the morning before we left for the convention, I drove to his house and begged him to come with us. I made a huge mistake (one of many) by begging him to come along.

Not only were the hotel accommodations now inadequate because he refused to share a bed with Alec, and Alec and my friend obviously couldn’t share, but the entire trip was now awkward and tense. We dropped our stuff off at the hotel after getting an air mattress for Alec to sleep on and made our way to the convention where I hoped and prayed that we would all finally start having a good time. Spoiler: it got worse.

My ex was literally swinging from being obnoxious, unruly, rude, and embarrassing to pretending he was a fan and just as big of a geek as the rest of us. Alec finally took him aside and told him what an ass he was for treating me so horribly and how he was ruining this trip for all of us. My ex tried to keep his thoughts to himself for the rest of the weekend, but I knew once we got back home that I would pay the price for Alec’s lecture.

What should have been an incredible weekend with friends was soured by the emotional manipulation and guilt trip from my ex boyfriend. If I could take my younger self aside, I’d tell her to forget him and have fun with her friends. She probably wouldn’t listen though. I went through a lot in that abusive relationship that led me to therapy and my PTSD diagnosis. I got out though, and I am so much stronger now.

Luckily for me, I’ve attended so many conventions since then to make new memories that my first convention experience has faded away from memory. I’m thankful that I have kick ass friends and a loving husband that would never make me feel bad for going on a trip or indulging in my love of fan conventions.

What was your worst convention experience? Let me know in the comments below OR take on the challenge yourself and link back to this post so I can see your answer!

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12 thoughts on “Geek Out Challenge: Day 4

  1. That’s a harsh one, my worst con wasnt as bad.
    I went too this con I won a VIP ticket for with a couple that were to be married soon.
    We rented an AirBnb , and I noticed something off when they unpacked in seperate rooms. Before going to the con they annouced , she fell for another guy and the wedding would be cancelled. I missed my Pokémon Card tournament they held there because they were crying. Rather than get my VIP acces to cosplays shows, I had to phone bakeries and tell them the wedding was off. I had to see my two best friends go trough emotional hell, while being trapped in my version of disneyland , being unable to enjoy any of it. We were at the con…but also not… constantly moving outside to accept new calls where they had to explain stuff , after which me and another friend who came along were emotional support again.

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  2. Sorry you had that experience! I dated a guy like that when I was younger. It was awful. I’m glad you got away from him! No one deserves that type of treatment. And good for Alec for standing up for you! He sounds like a really good friend. Unfortunate that your ex basically punished you for literally just having a fun weekend with friends. 😦 what a complete ass!

    I was also diagnosed with PTSD from abusive relationships (romantic ones, and family relationships as well). I know the struggle. 😦 But I’m so glad you have a wonderful husband and great friends now! I’m not married, but my boyfriend is amazing and has always treated me wonderfully and I have a couple close friends that are great too. I think PTSD really opens your eyes to toxic people and makes you more selective with who you want in your life (at least that is how I feel). I hope things continue going well for you! 🙂

    I really like your blog btw!

    https://crumplelucinda.blogspot.com

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    1. I’m so glad that you’re in a better place, too. I totally agree that PTSD definitely alters the way you see interactions and people in a way that can help you strive for a more healthy and positive life.

      Thank you so much for stopping by!

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